David Vann

Look, she said. There's something that adults call expectations, which means that we never get what we want and in fact we don't get it because we want it. So the way it works is that if I really want Steve, if I want to marry him, then he runs away. If I don't want him, then he'll keep coming around and we won't be able to get rid of him. And this will be even more true for you, because being a father is a much bigger thing than being a husband. So if you want Steve to be your father, he'll run. But if you can just enjoy Steve because he's fun, maybe he'll stick around for a bit.