Lundy Bancroft

Not only are the rights of his partner and children diminished –with some abusers those little circles disappear altogether– but his rights are greatly inflated. My fundamental task as a counselor is to get the abusive man to EXPAND his perception of his partner's and children's rights to their proper size and to SHRINK his view of his own rights down to where it belongs. The abusive man awards himself all kinds of "rights", including:
* Physical caretaking,
* Emotional caretaking,
* Sexual caretaking,
* Deference,
* Freedom from accountability.