A page-turner!
Who'd have believed it? There are 5 love languages!
You can still love someone but if you don't speak (at least understand) his/her love language, it may drive a wedge between the two of you.
After the euphoria of the "in-love" state, where everything seems perfect, where your lover seems "perfect" to you, when you get down from the cloud and start seeing you relationship as it is, not as a fairy tale anymore, you start to understand that you have to "choose to love" that person if you want to spend the rest of your life with him/her, for better and worse. And by realizing that, you may also start realizing that you don't really understand why he/she isn't behaving like he/she used to do before. Well, here we are: maybe the tank of your partner is starting to empty or/and you just discovered that he/she speaks a different love language than yours (if you're lucky, it's only a different dialect than yours). But what is a love language?
According to
Gary Chapman, each one of us speaks his own primary love language: words of affirmation, gifts, quality time, acts of service, or physical touch. I may love you and you may love me but if we speak different primary love languages without being aware of that, we won't understand how each one of us gives and likes to receive love. This can quickly lead us to this conclusion: we're not made for each other!
Identifying and understanding the primary love language of my partner will help me understand his/her needs in terms of love and consequently express my love for him/her the "correct" way. By doing this, he/she will feel loved: I'm filling his/her love tank. Once his/her tank will be full, his/her attitude and mannerisms will reflect that. My partner will fill my love tank back. Innit that simple?
I highly recommend this book to everyone, whether you're single, married, getting out of a relationship,.. You will learn a lot about yourself and your understanding of others. Let's love each other better! :)