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EAN : 9782228909143
382 pages
Payot et Rivages (02/05/2013)
3.92/5   6 notes
Résumé :
Être adulte en amour, c'est savoir ce que l'on veut, être capable de lâcher prise, aimer l'autre pour ce qu'il est. Avec ce livre, David Richo nous aide à surmonter la peur de l'abandon, conserver un espace à soi, refuser d'être maltraité, ne pas toujours attendre de l'autre qu'il comble nos manques. Combinant les outils de la psychologie positive et ceux de la pleine conscience, il montre comment se défaire de tout ce qui entrave ou alourdit la vie de couple pour, ... >Voir plus
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  02 mars 2015
Je recommande aux personnes qui veulent se sentir mieux dans leur couple, ou même comprendre les raisons d'un échec sentimental. Ce bouquin m'a vraiment aidé à aller de l'avant !
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torezutorezu   05 octobre 2018
You may not feel loved by someone who truly loves you because she shows it in ways you do not understand as love. This is like hearing a foreign language and presuming it is gibberish. Ask for a translation: The challenge of intimacy for adults is to expand our original concept of love to accommodate a partner’s unique way of loving. We can still ask for what we want while trying to accept an approximation of it and opening ourselves to new versions of love.
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torezutorezu   29 octobre 2018
[...] the solitude [the psyche] needs for its full development. Beings as complex as ourselves need retreats from others to explore the depths of our character and our destiny. We need regular periods of solitude to replenish ourselves, to locate new sources of creativity and self-knowledge, and to discover possibilities in our souls that are invisible when we are with others.
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torezutorezu   05 novembre 2018
In reality, though, I am only losing the chance to continue using him as the mannequin who can wear the garments of my unfulfilled wishes—this is the essence of my lifelong loneliness. You and this grief allowed me to open, but you cannot meet the need you helped me to identify. You can open me but do not fill me. This is not your fault. It is about me.
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torezutorezu   06 novembre 2018
Their hearts expressed an appreciation of our lovableness and thus enabled us to feel it in our own hearts. We found, and have always found, our inner source of nurturance through our external source of nurturance. But when we make a literal identification between a parent or partner and one of our own inner powers, we are confusing an archetypal universal image with a personal image, the channel with the source. This is how the parent or partner assumes such gigantic stature in our psyche. [...] He becomes, rather than points to, our higher Self. Letting go of attachment to people and things at the ego or literal level is a way to open ourselves to the buddha mind behind all appearances.
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torezutorezu   02 octobre 2018
The task is not to disown the mindsets but to redirect their energies so they can serve us and others. Thus, fear can be mined for wise caution. Desire makes it possible to reach out. Judgment includes intelligent assessment. Control is necessary in most daily activities. Fantasy is the springboard to the imagination and creativity.
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